I need to apologise for taking so long to post something new.While I was away though myself and my fiancée found something. We came across another butch woman called Ivan Coyote. She is an amazing storyteller with humour too and is trying to help stop bullying in schools. check her out on YouTube.
The one thing that leaped out at me and my fiancée,who is herself butch was that this woman had also been through the rudeness that occurs to butch women in toilets. This makes me sooo angry. Thankfully she has never been screamed at like Ivan was but she has had some pretty rude comments. From the “is this the ladies?”to the staring at the door to make sure it is to the security guards from a local shopping centre coming in the toilets and asking her to leave(they left after she assured them she was female) to the elderly woman who asked “are you a girl or a boy?” to which my fiancée answered “I’m female!” Then the woman quipped ” in my day girls looked like girls and body’s like boys,things are so different now, people dress so different you can’t tell.”and walked out. Maybe you thought they didn’t do sweetie but they were like that,you just didn’t notice them. So rude and what is worse they always do it while I’m in the toilet so I can’t help her. I have decided next time which there probably will be, I will shout from my cubicle. They will get the shock of their life and good. I will say something along the lines of “how dare you be so rude to my partner. Yes she is female,whether your narrow mind comprehends it or not and she has just come in to use the toilet, just as you have. She knows which toilet is which,so give her some credit and mind your own business”.and then when I am finished if they are still there they will get another mouthful. Why are people so narrow- minded?? There are lots of butch women around, there are lots of femmes,like myself , there are lots of straight people and lots of gay people,lots of fat and thin. Woman that like dresses, girlie women that don’t. So why do we act this way. god made us all different. We are all unique.so why can’t we stop and think that person looks like a man,but could very well be a woman and leave it. To be honest what man is that polite anyway? as a butch woman is. She is not being threatening so obviously is not going to hurt you,so why don’t you try and open your mind. My fiancee is hot so why don’t you take a min to notice that!!!!!!!